Sleeping together: A sign of trust
Sometimes we are animals in our own way, this time, in a good way.
These days, Melody (my girlfriend) shared some information with me regarding the behavior of cats and its meaning. Most of them I knew, however, I was very caught by one and that is when they are kept face up, which means trust. Hikaru (our cat) does that act all the time with us, but with strangers, it takes a little longer. When the cats are face up they have all their defenses down and provide that space of intimacy between them and you. The same thing happens when you sleep with someone, at least, that's what I think.
I'm not talking specifically about sex, but the act that follows it, on some occasions. Sleeping with someone, that moment where you close your eyes and when you open them again you are still with that person you last saw, is where the situation becomes more intimate. Making part of someone external to an act where you usually go on your own, is a big deal even if it seems that are not or you are in denial mode. I will write several examples and you share with me what you think about it.
Like cats, it is an act of trust due to the simple fact that you have no way to defend yourself if you are sleeping. So it suggests that the person earned that moment.
When you wake up, it will find you and you will find it in its total essence. Disheveled, sleepy, afraid of a bad smell coming out of the mouth, you name it.
One of the two shared their space for that moment or it was an alternate space that you decided to spend together. Whatever the decision, it involves a kind of joint planning, whether they have verbalized it or not.
The conversation the next morning will not be by text message and this is the most determining point because it is happening live.
Maybe some people just don't mind sleeping next to someone and none of the examples above has any value to their interaction. I do not rule out that this act varies between each dynamic, however, for me (and I know that for several other people) it is one of those moments where you decide to be and appreciate the self of the other person. Not only one took the step to make it happen, but the other person also expressed themself to make it happen. With whom to do it and with whom not to do it, that is the big question. For my part, I already know with who I will do for the rest of our lives.
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